Do you lie to your kid(s)?? Well I do. I try to be as truthful as possible, but there are just times you gotta lie to your kid just to get them to do something or not to do something.
Most of the time it's trying to make my son eat, followed by, taking him to wash his poop, making him go to sleep, or to let go of running around with that pencil he found somewhere and a bunch of other things.
So some of the usual dialogs would go something like:
1. Old newspaper (doesn't work anymore)
For some reason when he was around 1-2 years, those "Old newspaper, paper lama, kakaubochik (??)" lorries would scare him. So, that would be the bait for me and it worked. "Luqman, cepat makan nasik ni, kalau tak old newspaper datang" And I'll start singing "old newspaper" together with the honking/siren. And if I was lucky, in this case, if Luqman was unlucky, the lorry would pass by at the right time. Haha. But, it doesn't work anymore. He began to understand, there's nothing to fear.
2. Police / lipas / tikus / cicak / zombie or hantu
These are the usual suspects used against Luqman. Do they work? Depends on the situation. Sekarang ni not so much. The best thing is he now uses those things against me. Here's an example where he uses hantu.
Also, the hantu thing pon to me isn't so good to make him believe in that. Yeah they do exist, alam ghaib and all, tapi there are other better things to use instead of hantu. So I avoid using that to scare him. However, when there are hantus on TV, I don't close his eye or distract him, I tell him to look at them, and I go, "Luqman, look hantu OooOoOOo" jokingly, so I don't want him to fear such things. So I guess why that's in this Keek above, he dares to say hantu is baik. Haha.
The creepy crawlies too like lipas. I don't want to make him afraid of 'em, nanti besar asyik takut lipas je. Dahla he's a boy. Good thing I don't fear those insects, so whenever I see one, I don't mind going close and telling Luqman, "See Luqman, nak takut apa, tak jadi apa pun kat Ummi?". However, in deperate cases I do use lipas/tikus/cicak when he's really stubborn and doesn't want to sleep. I'd act all panicky, like "Luqman, Luqman, bunyi apa tu.... Ummi nampak apa tu?!" and I'd go silent for a while (dramatic pause), then I continue "Eh, Ummi nampak lipas la kat situ, dia datang nak tengok Luqman sebab dia dengar Luqman bising-bising taknak sleep, Ummi takut, Ummi nak sleep". And I close my eyes, and pretend to sleep. For now, it works.
Please do share your tactics. Do you lie to your kids? Or do you have other ways to convince them to do/not do things? Please do share. I might be able to try it with Luqman.
Much Love, Anna